Thursday, October 1, 2015

Great Books For Adoptive Parents and Kids

Adoption books
You’ll notice I didn’t say great books about adoption. Most of these delightful books aren’t adoption-specific, but they do cover adoption-related topics, like unconditional love, resilience and acceptance.

My kids’ favorite adoption read isn’t on this list. That’s because it’s the photo book documenting how and when we met. I spent a lot of bleary nights making those books shortly after we came home. If you haven’t written your child’s life story yet, you really should. I bet it will be your kids favorite book too.

For Kids
God Found Us YouMama Fox tells her Little Fox her favorite story of all, the story of when God found us you.

I Love You So… - A book that documents a parents unconditional love for a child through good and bad. “I love you as steady as the earth rounds the sun, though some days of life are the farthest from fun.”

Just Because You’re Mine – A beautifully illustrated book about Little Red Squirrel and his dad. Little Red Squirrel asks his dad a series of questions about why his dad loves him: do you love me because I’m fast, a very good at finding berries, a good climber, etc… Dad tells his son he doesn’t love him for these attributes but instead just because you’re mine.

I’ll Follow The Moon – This is the story of a baby green sea turtle who hatches and then follows the moonlight to find his mother out at sea. Even though it’s not about adoption, the sea turtles lyrical journey will feel familiar to waiting parents. “I’m coming, Mama, I’ll see you soon. I know just how… I’ll follow the moon.”

For Parents
Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child: From Your First Hours Together Through The Teen YearsIf you only read one book on adoption, read this one. Pack it in your suitcase. Refer to it early and often.

Your One (Through Fourteen) Year-Old Child – Written for each year of your child’s life, each slender volume gives the norms typical for that age. If you’ve ever had someone tell you, “Don’t worry, that’s normal,” it’s handy to have this book for reference. The books are a bit out-dated. Your child is not likely to enjoy “phonograph records,” but technology changes but the core material remains the same.

Baby, We Were Meant for Each OtherThe book begins with NPR’s Scott Simon and his wife’s funny and candid journey through infertility and the adoption of their two daughters from China. It follows with a series of stories from other adoptive families. (While all of the stories are enjoyable, I wish Simon himself had written the entire book. He’s dry and it’s funny).

Replenish: Experience Radiant Calm and True Vitality in Your Everyday LifeIt’s like a bubble bath for your soul. I really wish the adoption agency had had us read this book instead of sending us to antiquated parenting classes.

Better Than Before: Mastering The Habits of Our Everyday Lives – I’m a big Gretchen Rubin fan and I loved this book. It has nothing to do with adoption and everything to do with adoption. Adoption and kids are big changes, which means it’s a great time to build new habits for yourself and for your family.

I Wish For You A Beautiful Life – A collection of letters from Korean birth moms to their children. Read it with a tissue.

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