Thursday, December 24, 2015
Small Actions Repeated Over Time Transform Us
One of the things that Matt and I noticed soon after Mr. Scientist got here is that he flits from activity to activity. We've found many things that he likes to do (tanagrams, puzzles, math games, the playground, etc...) but even when he's fully engaged, he doesn't stay at an activity for long. By way of illustration, all of the kids were painting. Mr. Scientist did one picture and was done. Even my four-year-old kept at it for longer than that.
I'd find this behavior worrisome except that I've seen it before. All three of my kids did the exact same thing when they first came home (although they were much younger).
The causation for the behavior is myriad (so many exciting choices, so little time; few prior opportunities for self-directed play, a generalized anxiety, etc...). The important thing is that the behavior can be overcome.
His first full day here, Mr. Scientist told us that he loved basketball. Matt took him to the court and came back and reported that the little guy couldn't get the ball as high as his own head. Mr. Scientist has been shooting hoops almost every day since he got here and today he **almost** got the ball to the net. Was it a swish? No. Was it progress? Yes. Does it show that he's persistent and has staying power? Absolutely.
One of my favorite quotes is: Small actions over time transform us. It's an anthem I've had to repeat to myself time and time again. I saw it at work today. It was priceless.
I'm not going to lie, even as easy-going as Mr. S is, it's been a lot of work adding a fourth child into our mix. Everyone wants a piece of this pie, and the pie ain't deep dish.
But a reoccurring theme in my life is that (cue Poison here) life's thorns teach you more than rainbows ever can. Don't curse the thorns, they produce far more than a pot of gold.