Wednesday, March 1, 2017

This is what love looks like

Have you seen this video? If you haven't, you should. 

It's the story of a little girl born in the Philippines without arms and legs and adopted to the U.S. by the Stewart family. I love this story because it mirrors so much of my own story. I, too, have a child with limb differences. But even more than that, I can relate to this mother's words: "[W]e did not think that we were qualified or prepared enough to parent a child like her." Isn't that what every parent fears and believes? That regardless of the circumstances we are not enough?

In a CBS News interview Adrianne Stewart went on to say, "It’s not as hard and difficult as people think it could be.” Notice that she didn't say it was easy; it's not. But it's not nearly as hard as you would expect once you get ahead of the learning curve.

Do you know why?

Love does not require perfection. 

It's about waking up and showing up and being better than you were the day before. It's about everything you are and everything you're not. It doesn't have to spotless and shiny - it just has to be whole. 

Did you see the nanny's tears? Did you see this sweet little girl shake her head "no" when her father told her that he was her daddy?

That is love. It is imperfect. It is messy. It is broken.

Allow me to echo Adrianne Stewart: We are all more capable than we think we are. 


  1. Beautiful, heart warming and and your comments so true. Love certainly does not require perfection.

  2. Have you talked to this mom??? Because you two need to connect, like right now.

    My dear, sweet friend can I tell you something? You've been one of my greatest teachers. I have watched you grow and build your family. And believe it or not, I have taken notes! You love your children so individually and completely.... I want (I've always wanted) to be like you. Thank you, thank you, thank you!